Is it a Malay thing, or literally every family member tries to pressure you into getting a boyfriend?

Here are my reasons as to why I am single

1) I have social anxiety.

It is true. I cannot talk to the person I like, ever. I would stammer and literally just stare at them for a while and not talk about anything when I want to talk about everything to him. I want to tell him he looks good but I can't, I'm even afraid to comment or like their posts on social media because then I figured they would think "why does this weirdo keep liking my photo?". Maybe I haven't met someone I'm comfortable talking to. Who knows?

2) Being in 20s is the year of self discovery

I am just really blessed to have earned a scholarship and to live outside London really. That way, I get to save a loooot of money and start investing in myself. Whether it'd be a good attire or gym membership or starting a new hobby. It truly makes me feel happy. My mom told me to 'invest on my aesthetics' hence that is what I am trying to do now. So in this hectic schedule of finding myself, I honestly do not have a commitment for dating. Like yes, I have time for friends because I am certain that I would be comfortable with them. But investing time on people who might not even like you back or who would be probably fooling around with you? I'm sorry I am not up for that uncertainty.

3) I need to sort myself out

This is the most important thing really; I am SUCH a messy person, my life is in an actual mess. I'm trying to sort out my problems, specifically my mental ones. How on earth can I take care of another being? Being in a relationship means talking to them a lot, asking if they are okay, taking time to care for them etc. Honestly, I can't even take care of myself.

4) I am really comfortable with the state I am in

I have always been independent. Some may think I am a loner, but they know nothing about me. I have a considerable amount of friends, I update my social media and people would constantly reply to my updates and I talk to them like we are close friends. But most of the time, I like doing things on my own. Being with someone else requires us to suit our lifestyle to their needs, and honestly, I haven't found someone who can tolerate with all my passions other than my mom. So being on my own gives me peace and tranquility.

This is a script for me whenever someone asks me when I am getting a boyfriend. Imma just type in my blog url and read this list out. Feel free to plagiarize this too.

I will leave you to ponder on this Youtube video by this Cambridge student vlogger